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I never promised you a rose garden

June 10th, 2009 · by map · View Comments

Whew. This morning was a doozy. Ava was insistent that she didn’t want to go to school, and Emmett’s fussiness from last night carried over into the daylight. At one point, both kids (weird…”both kids”) were crying away downstairs, Emmett on my lap and Ava to her mom on the sofa in the TV room. And I thought to myself, “So this is what it’s going to be like now.” Like any responsible adult, this thought was followed quickly by, “Well, I asked for it.”

The experienced parent in me wonders how long this phase will last. The pessimist in me wonders if it’s a phase at all and whether it’ll go on forever and ever and ever. It pains us to see Ava so sad, particularly when she’s too young to understand we’re serious when we say we really are going to pick her up from school; we won’t leave her there.

By the time I dropped Ava off at school summer camp this morning, she was happily drinking the Italian soda and munching on the bagel I’d bought her at the Java House. Still, when I tried to leave after escorting her to her room, she made it clear that she wanted her Gramary to take her “straight home, immediately” after school. Well! Even her worry over being displaced by the new kid isn’t enough to dampen her love of giving orders.

Tags: Ava · Big sis · General

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  • 1 Cindy // Jun 10, 2009 at 5:42 pm

    I don't know why, but this made me smile:) I love a gal who has a strong sense of self, and isn't afraid to express it.

  • 2 map // Jun 11, 2009 at 7:41 am

    Yes, that seems right up your alley all right, Cindy.

  • 3 Kathryn // Jun 11, 2009 at 10:16 am

    These early weeks are really tough. It can only get better. It WILL get better. I also believe you've given Ava enough love and security these past 4 1/2 years for her to know you would never leave her at preschool :)

  • 4 map // Jun 11, 2009 at 10:33 am

    You'd better not be lying to me about the getting better part. I mean it.

  • 5 jwh // Jun 11, 2009 at 3:21 pm

    sure it gets better.

    she'll become less concerned about herself and more concerned about him…

    soon she will worry that her brother is bored in his crib so she'll start dropping toys over the rail to him, not all of which will be soft or light.

    and he'll cry. so far, i think the crying is the constant.

  • 6 Kathryn // Jun 11, 2009 at 4:16 pm

    These early weeks are really tough. It can only get better. It WILL get better. I also believe you've given Ava enough love and security these past 4 1/2 years for her to know you would never leave her at preschool :)

  • 7 map // Jun 11, 2009 at 4:33 pm

    You'd better not be lying to me about the getting better part. I mean it.

  • 8 jwh // Jun 11, 2009 at 9:21 pm

    sure it gets better.

    she'll become less concerned about herself and more concerned about him…

    soon she will worry that her brother is bored in his crib so she'll start dropping toys over the rail to him, not all of which will be soft or light.

    and he'll cry. so far, i think the crying is the constant.

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